Ten Days

My 21 year old son had come to stay with me and I am embarrassed by how challenging it became for me.  After all my radio shows, my meetings and all my practice.

It was too easy.  How could I revert to this person I no longer wanted to be?

Screaming, yelling, irritated. 

I was surprised at how quickly I fell into the old dynamics of our relationship.

 

It wasn’t completely dreadful though, as together, we were able to accomplish

some pretty great work that needed to be done.

I now choose to focus on that. 

Which gave me an idea.

If I could change so unfavorably during that 10 day period, perhaps I can take the same amount of time and push myself to change in a more healthy direction.

My timing coincides with the Jewish New Year which begins Thursday with Rosh Hashanah and ends the following Saturday, on Yom Kippur.  This 10 day period is known as a time for serious introspection, to consider the sins of the previous year, and repent. Among the customs of this time, it is also common to seek reconciliation with people you may have wronged during the course of the year.

And so…In honor of my son’s ability to hang with me for 10 days and be who he needed to be, I am embarking on a 10 day journey of my own (of course you can join me) in which I will eat or drink only water, fruits and vegetables.  Only raw, juiced or steamed.

No salt, no oil, no anything.  Not even one cheese steak.

My plan is for this physical cleanse to kick start a deeper practice of exploration of myself and our universe.  I hope you can join me.

Thanks for allowing me to be your wingman today.
In Appreciation, Mike

Inspired Thought.

Yesterday I experienced another sign and I’m beginning to believe what I’m thinking about at these moments is inspired thought.

On my morning walk through the woods, I heard a loud “Crack” and a tree limb crashed down right next to me; a happening my hiking friend calls a “widow maker”.

Thus was my morning.  I was in the midst of my staff meeting, doing my high five (5 things I’m thankful for from the prior day) when I considered a business seminar I had attended.  I've been asking for “money to flow to me” and I reflected on how this meeting may assist in bringing more income to my business. 

How wonderful I felt as I recognized I was actually helping the universe help me.

And it hit me.

Whatever you desire, whatever you ask for, whatever you want… it’s best to help the universe help you receive it. 

Help them help you.

My thoughts turned to the movie, "Jerry Maguire" with Tom Cruise and Cuba Gooding Jr.   There’s a great scene where Jerry (Tom) is begging Rod (Cuba),

"Help me, help you. Help Me, Help You. Help me, help you.”

So I asked my wingmen.  “Help me help you.”

And what came back was… “help us, help you.  Help us, help you.”

Crack. Whoosh.  Thump.  And the tree limb crashed down.

Help them help me.  Hmmm.  What would that look like?

Help them, help me.

In effect, help ME, help me. 

Help the larger part of me, my soul or my spirit,

help the physical me attract all that I long for.

Are you looking for money, maybe make a few phone calls, set a meeting.

Looking for a lover/partner, maybe get out of your house and do something you enjoy.

Better health?  Maybe get off the couch and take a walk.

They say, “Ask and it is given”. 

Perhaps if we can practice this we can actually receive all the universe has delivered in response to our desires. 

Thanks for allowing me to be your wingman today.

In Appreciation, Mike

My patch of sun.

When walking this morning I noticed a small patch of sunlight, and went straight towards it.  I love seeing these “sun patches” so my focus was clear and my route direct. 

In this beautiful forest I saw only “my little patch of sunlight”.

And then it hit me. 

How many times in life do we know what we want,

but get distracted by what we don’t. 

How often do we try and change that which we don’t desire to be more to our liking.

Ask and it is given. 

So today I’m asking for help in choosing what I want, and focusing ONLY on that. 

Please join me in this exercise, for where ever you are right now, we are all at the buffet table of life… and it’s our choice. 

We can choose family and friends being healthy, happy, loved and respected.

We can choose laughing with the one we love as we enjoy the energy of the city, the salt air of the ocean, or the crisp breeze of the mountains.

We can choose to be passionate about our work.

We can choose those things that bring a smile to our face when we think of them.

We can choose to relax, knowing that money will come to us in abundance, like air and water.

How enjoyable is this view of life?  Only giving attention to that which you wish for. 

Do not get distracted by concentrating on things you do not desire. 

And beware of what you ask for.

Do not ask, “to learn how to be more patient”, for you will be given more to be patient about.

Do not ask, as I repeatedly have, to better understand Shakespeare’s quote,

“Nothing is either good or bad, just thinking makes it so”, for you will receive much to help you learn that lesson.

Instead just say…

“I choose to be happy and healthy and wise.

I choose to love and be loved.

I choose to help others and be respected.

I choose to embrace life and live with passion.

I choose to have money coming to me in abundance.

I choose to appreciate all the blessings in my life.”

Choose your patch of sunlight, and focus solely on that. 

Thanks for allowing me to be your wingman today.

In Appreciation, Mike

Thanks Dad.

Thanks Dad.

My dad was clearly around me yesterday as my son not only mentioned him, but on my daily walk, right in the middle of my path was a $.25 cent piece face up that made me think of him.  While we didn't have the best relationship back when I was younger and he was alive, I am thankful for his presence and appreciate him being in my life now.

It was therefore no surprise this morning when in the midst of my walk I felt him again.  This conversation ensued:

“Hi Dad.  I feel you around me and I appreciate it.  Do you have a message for me?”

“Yes.  You're doing great. They can handle life. You're doing great. Don't worry so much about it.  You pushed my buttons just like yours are now being pushed, and then you blow up and move on.  Focus on how you’ve helped and what you’ve learned.  It's now time for you to move on.  Think about where you are right now and how much you now understand.  It seems a great deal more than before. 

Be thankful for that. Be appreciative of that, and enjoy everything you've now learned.

Keep practicing as best you can.  Don't stop because something gets in your way.  There is nothing wrong with taking a break from it.  There is nothing wrong with feeling bad.  As a matter of fact, feeling bad can be a great day.  It can help you think about what you really want and help provide real clarity.  Focus.  Enjoy it. 

Don't get so tied up and wrapped up and worried about it.  Enjoy what happens, and keep on practicing to be the person, or better, the wingman you want to be. 

Help people. Figure out how to help others and not only will this lifetime be happy, but you will help make others happy as well.  Just keep practicing being a wingman. 

Look for progress, not perfection.

Practice asking… "How can I help you?" 

Those 5 words will get you started on a beautiful path and you will not believe how happy you can be.  How can I help you?  It’s as simple as that.

How can I help you?  A toast… To being a wingman.”

“Thanks Dad, is there more?

Dad…  How can I help you?”

“You have, but there is one thing…can I get your Wingman of the Week award?”

And so, for all those times you were there for me, allow me to present my “Wingman of the Week Award” to my father, Robert Gross.

Thanks Dad.

Seeing Signs…

A woman called the radio show (TalknAngels.com) last Wednesday saying she has been studying Law of Attraction through Abraham-Hicks for the past 5 years and though she constantly looks for signs, never sees any.

At the end of our conversation she mentioned how she often wakes up to the sound of someone calling her name although no one is there. 

Perhaps many of us don’t notice signs because we don’t know what we’re looking for.  I’m not speaking of those that are clearly marked, like a big red stop sign, although really, how many of us have missed them?

For that matter, how many of us have experienced something as obvious as to be awakened by someone calling our name, yet no one is there, and missed that.

I believe signs are easy to see, but only when you’re practiced at seeing them. 

And that is where I found myself the other day.  While in the park, stretching on my usual picnic table, I fell into my own mind.  Thoughts of a situation not going exactly as desired filled my head.  As I stretched my spine, I turned, and directly in my face, not to be missed were the words in the picture you see above.

Only you control your own fate & happiness.

Really?

I didn’t miss that sign.  It couldn’t have been much clearer.

Don’t sell yourself short.

Don’t be taken advantage of.

You deserve better. 

Don’t ever settle for less than what you are -.

Only you control your own fate & happiness.

For the next few days I am practicing noticing signs.  Visible, physical, well written signs or signs a bit more unusual, it doesn’t matter.   My only concern in this training exercise is to begin seeing more, for by Law of Attraction, the more I begin to observe, the more I will get to observe.

Please feel free to join me in this assignment and while practicing, it will help to remember…

Only you control your own fate & happiness.

Thank you for allowing me to be your wingman today.

Mike

Are you Insane?

Are you insane?

Because according to Einstein's definition I certainly am.

Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and

expecting different results. 

How many of us, when dealing with our issues constantly replay the same role, do the same dance, play the same song. 

No matter how you've grown, how evolved you've become or how much you have learned, when your "issue" confronts you, you can be counted on to do what you’ve always done.  As a matter of fact, if you look at your life, it may actually be the one thing you do most consistently.

Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, it gets very tiring.   

I can tell you I’ve come face to face with my issues this week and I again reverted to someone I no longer am, someone far from who I’ve become, and someone I don’t even like anymore.  And when I’m no longer being who I have become, the stress of that becomes exhausting. 

The fact that I hoped things would work out better this time places me in the category of the truly insane.

So… how can I change my actions and stop playing my same old song? 

How can I practice being all that I’ve become, when old issues surface?

The fact that I recognize my issue certainly is a great start.  Now I must capitalize on that and do something, anything, differently then is my normal.  Some might call this “thinking outside the box”.  I call it seeing it from my wingman’s perspective. 

Either way, if I can just break my habit and attempt a unique solution, I will consider this exercise to be successful.  The more prepared I can be at being who I know I am, the happier I will be.

Please feel free to join me in doing this assignment.  Again, don’t worry if your out of the ordinary idea “works” or doesn’t, just changing your routine will have you feeling wiser and more powerful.

Thank you for allowing me to be your Wingman today. 

Mike