As a flood of negative thoughts invaded my mind, the one that made the most sense to me at that moment was a practice I developed and speak about with my individual coaching clients and at corporate training presentations.
I call it Hocus, Pocus, Change My Focus and while it doesn't have a very corporate sounding name, the feedback I get from executives and employees is very positive.
I decided if I was going to have an enjoyable thanksgiving I better "practice what I preach" so I sat right down and thought, "What would my wingman say"?
As I had been walking with a trusted friend and wingman, I didn't have to wait long.
"Well, you said you were looking for a sign about your car, you certainly got one."
Hmmm. Not exactly what I wanted to hear, but not a bad start either. I have had some issues with this car over the last couple of years and, while my gut instinct has told me to get rid of it, my habit of procrastination has kept it in my driveway.
Just like Abraham says, if you have a situation, and you avoid dealing with it, don't worry, it will get bigger. Truer words were never said concerning my car.
Once you finally accept this fact you will find you begin to deal with any procrastination you have. For some of us, it just takes a little longer.
People often ask me, “how”?
How can I see a positive when my car is sitting there, broken down, needing to be towed, and will probably cost more than I have currently available to get back on the road?
As my own wingman, I now know the answer. Practice!
A positive attitude does not happen overnight.
But if you begin practicing tonight, I assure you, tomorrow will look a little bit better.
Let me give you an example of how you might practice in this specific situation.
Being as its thanksgiving, it's a good time to learn.
You start by finding something positive, anything you can be thankful for.
My car was in a very safe spot, no one was hurt and
I knew I had some time to think of the best way to handle this ordeal.
Wow! Did I just come up with three positives?
Watch out world, I'm on my way.
I had been looking for a sign and here I just received one.
I will have the car towed to the dealership, have them fix it and even though the car is out of warranty, have them help me with the cost because it has been a problematic car and they will want to do right by me.
I will then give this car back to the dealership in exchange for fair market value.
My daughter, because she works in the city, is now moving into the city and was looking for a way to save money. She will not need her car as much so I will share her car with her, thus saving us both money.
Wow! I’m almost glad this happened. NOT!
Folks, let’s not get crazy here.
I'm in no way saying I'm glad my car broke down.
However, I am saying when you can learn to find something, anything to be positive about; somehow you will begin to get more things to be positive about.
Perhaps it is, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says,
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.
Or perhaps science has a better explanation with its Law of Inertia,
which states… An object in motion stays in motion, an object at rest stays at rest.
When you are in a "positive" motion,
by definition, you tend to stay in positive motion.
That's it. There it is, wrapped up nice and easy for you.
1. Find something, anything to be positive about.
2. Let the Law of Inertia take it from there.
As you surround yourself with a more positive vibe,
you will attract more positive energy, helping you feel more positive.
3. If something unexpected happens and changes your feeling,
repeat step 1.
I hope you found much to be thankful for as this holiday season began.
I know I did.
Thank you for allowing me to be your Wingman today.
In Appreciation,
Mike
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