The road not taken…

Two paths diverged in my walk this morning and I’ve come to realize it matters not which course I take, only that I take one.  In hindsight, both paths crossed again as I believe they often do.  Yes, another validation that the journey is far more important then the destination.

What is most imperative though is…

·         I make a decision,

·         I own that decision

·         I embrace my decision.

I have seen too many get “paralysis by analysis” at their point of decision and either don’t make one, or constantly question the choice they made.  Perhaps that is not one of your issues, but there are times my lack of decisiveness feels like a constant companion.

So today, I’m going to practice being decisive and I invite you to join me. 

Let’s begin with small decisions, taking the stairs or the elevator, eating a chocolate chip cookie or a brownie, taking the back roads or the highway. 

Remember, don’t worry if the elevator gets stuck, the brownie turns out to be dry or the highway was the “better” decision.  The object of this exercise is solely to make a choice and line up with it. 

It will help you to better appreciate it is far more important to your being happy that you make a decision not which decision you make.

Today I will practice being decisive.  I will not worry which option I select, only that I select one.  I will choose quickly by whichever feels best at that moment, and I will not second guess my decision.  I will make it, own it and embrace it.

Practice being decisive and you will be decisive.

Thank you for allowing me to be your wingman today.

Mike

Feeling the Power

Yesterday, for the first time ever, I felt the power of an earthquake.  This incredible power, just below the surface of the earth, had my house swaying like a reed in the wind and it got me thinking. 

Abraham constantly speaks of the power that creates worlds running through each of us.  Religions and Mythologies throughout history have said in some fashion or another, either that we were created in God’s image, we have God’s blood coursing through us or we are our own Gods.  Another philosophy, possibly even more commanding, is that of evolution, that over time we have created our own strength, our own power.

Either way, I feel it is time to explore this great energy that seems to be just below my surface and yours as well.  Realizing such strength is the first step to cultivating it.  

My question then is…what practices can I utilize to help me in this endeavor?

I thought of two. 

The first is easy, start doing any type of physical exercise.  Anything, even if it’s just taking a walk down the street, start moving your body.  By law of attraction, you will begin attracting more and more physical strength.

The second is a bit more difficult and it was delivered to me from Ashtar, through Rita on our TalknAngels radio show.  When I asked what exercise I can do to help myself, the answer I heard was to meditate on a more cellular level so as to further understand how we are all connected. 

And so I ask you to join me today, to do a bit of physical exercise, and more importantly, to join me in meditating to feel the power of the trees, of the earth, and of ourselves.

Try both for a few days and let me know how you feel.

Thank you for allowing me to be your wingman today.

Mike

A pretty good idea…

Sometimes you just see the light and feel right about what to do. 

The question is… do you act upon that feeling?

I keep talking about practicing different ways to help myself and others feel better and be able to "access our wiser selves" more easily on demand. 

Starting today, I’m vowing to increase my training, to “practice what I preach”. 

To help myself and hopefully assist you as well, I will attempt to blog more frequently about my exercise du jour, the training I will be working on that day. 

Hopefully you will find this beneficial in your daily regimen and together we can build some synchronicity, which will be valuable to all of us, on our individual and collective journeys. 

So for today, let’s begin easily with a thought process.  We know the saying

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”.

I’ve read that although this is the popular form of this quotation, a more correct translation from the original Chinese would be… "The journey of a thousand miles begins beneath one's feet."  Rather than emphasizing the first step, Lau Tzu regarded action as something that arises naturally from stillness.  

Therefore, in stillness, I ask that you consider joining me in what will surely be an education, and if my ideas resonate for you, or if you have a particular routine that you enjoy, please drop me a line, either by commenting here on the blog or email me at michael@beyourownwingman.com.

Thank you for allowing me to be your wingman today.

Mike

How can I be your Wingman today?

I have a new practice that I just started yesterday morning and I wanted to pass it on. 

It is helping me and hopefully it will help you as well.   

To practice this is simple. 
Just ask someone, "How can I be your Wingman today"? 
If it’s someone you have a relationship with, you can ask it out loud.
If it’s someone you just happen to meet, you can just think it. 

Either way works.  It’s the mind-set we’re striving for here.  The quickest way to be your own wingman is to be someone else’s wingman first.  Helping another is a surefire way for you to help yourself.

Try this exercise for the next 3 or 4 days and see if it resonates for you. My belief is that your next 3 or 4 days will be far better because of it.  

Again, you don't have to voice it out loud.
More important than actually asking the question is keeping the attitude in the forefront of your mind, the "how can I be your wingman today" attitude.

Now go earn your wings, and have a great day.

In Appreciation, Mike

Questions or comments, you can email Mike at Michael@beyourownwingman .com

Just stop thinking about it!

This morning I realized I broke from my daily practice yesterday by not thinking of my High Five.  The reason why is simple, I ran into a bit of adversity the night before and couldn’t stop thinking about the negative implications.  Don’t tell me thoughts don’t create your perception of reality.  I am certain they do mine because when my mindset is off-putting and pessimistic it certainly seems I get more to be depressed about.

But today I decided to change all that.

I just stopped thinking about that which is troubling me.

And you can too.

Just stop thinking about it.

Just stop thinking about losing weight, and lose weight.

Just stop thinking about making money, and make money.

Just stop thinking about finding a partner, and be a partner.

Just stop thinking and just start being.

Stop defending who you are not… and just be who you are. 

If you truly want to change something about yourself, stop talking about it.

And just change it. Do something different.

Stop “trying” and start doing. 

If you want to lose weight, stop fighting yourself and start thinking like a thinner you. 

          The thinner you looks forward to exercising 5 or 6 days a week. 

          The thinner you enjoys making healthy food choices.

If you want to be wealthier, stop thinking about the reasons you’re not making money, and start thinking like a wealthier you.

          The wealthier you enjoys working hard and saving money.

          The wealthier you embraces education and looks to expand your

          knowledge base with an eye towards new opportunities.

If you want a romantic relationship, stop trying to find a partner and start being a better partner to yourself.

          The better partner you trusts and respects yourself and others.

          The better partner you communicates lovingly and honestly

          with yourself and with others.

Just stop thinking about it!  We all make it so much harder then it needs to be.

In Appreciation, Mike

Dr. Wayne, Lao Tzu and me… who wouldathunk it?

Practicing Dr. Dyer’s exercise from the first chapter of “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life” had me studying the continuum of desire vs. desireless or wanting vs. allowing.  It certainly got me thinking more paradoxically, which I believe was the point of the exercise. 

My goal was to be able to move myself along that continuum to where I can create, or manifest whatever I desire.  But to do so, I must be desireless. 

Hmmm.  Quite the conundrum!

How?  How can I enable myself to extend my wanting to where I’m allowing? 

I decided to follow his words and so I practiced.  Consistently. 

Any time I had a desire, I would practice feeling where I was on that scale between wanting and allowing.  It helped.  I’d feel my desire and I could tell where it was on the continuum.  Was I trying, or even worse, trying to hard?  Or was I trusting it would happen?

I started looking at my choice of words.  Allowing, permitting and trusting are all good words that many use, but they are difficult for me to live when I have a strong desire.

But then it hit me.

Inviting. 

If I invite you to a party, I obviously want you to be there.  After I’ve invited you, at that point I am now allowing.  I can do no more.  I have made my wishes known.  All I can now do is allow. 

I love this.  You want a house on the beach?  Invite it.  Better health, a new partner, a new car?  Whatever you want… just invite it as if you were inviting a friend to your house for dinner.

And start cooking.

In appreciation, Mike

Poster Boy needs more practice…

After writing and living with last week’s blog, two points became very clear to me.

1)  I need to practice more consistently.  Consistency has never been one of my strengths but I’ve come to realize how important it is.  I even gave myself an Angel card reading (I mean really) and the message was confirmed, practice more, adopt a daily practice.  My staff meetings are great but more is needed.  I remember when beginning to conduct my staff meetings, the consistency of holding one each morning and how I seemed to be riding the wind.  And then, for some reason I stopped having them.  Why?  I don’t know. Is that just my history or do others also do the same? 

Anyway, my plan is for more consistent practice.  At least one hour a day, six days a week.  Read, write, listen or even better, just think about the Universe, the Law of Attraction, and the energies we know surround us.  I decided to think of my life as a rehearsal for what’s next, and live accordingly.  What would I like to work on, what would I like to improve?  What would you?  Think about it and start practicing.

2)      My stated lesson from last week,

“… perhaps by not trying to, but by allowing, by not being emotional about the outcome.”

Stop wanting and just allow… huh? What?  How? 

These words are so interesting to me because I remember years ago, having a great success and a friend asking how it came to be.  I remember answering, “It seemed like I just allowed it”.   I never used those words before, or after, until recently. 

And so, I decided to begin my new regiment with Dr. Wayne Dyer’s interpretation of the first chapter of the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu.  He talks of desiring and being desireless, which seemed to be exactly what I was asking about. 

I began to listen, read, study and meditate on it as he says to do.  It became easier for me to comprehend by identifying desire as wanting and desireless as allowing.  This so called subtle difference is in sync with Abraham’s teachings as well.  The concept has not been easy for me to grasp.

Thankfully he gives an exercise to work on to help develop your understanding and ability.

When feeling a desire, note where your emotion is on the continuum

between wanting it and allowing it. 

I can not yet put it into words but after practicing this a bit, I can certainly define the difference between the two in my mind.  I see why others use the term “Letting Go” or as Dr. Dyer states, “let go, and let God.”

I know what wanting feels like, and I know I have felt allowing. 

After more of this exercise I hope to be able to better define it with words, but more importantly, to feel it in my being and be able to call upon that feeling at will. 

Thanks Dr. Wayne, thanks for writing this book and being my wingman this week.

In appreciation, Mike.